My daughter's Human Design and what it means

What if you could predict that your child might have trouble settling down at night? What if you knew at birth that your child needs to talk things out in order to make correct decisions? Or that she amplifies the emotions of others in the room? What if you knew all of this at birth and you could tailor your parenting to match what your unique child actually needs? If you could meet her exactly where she is and help her maintain a relationship with her higher self so she doesn't have to go through years of therapy and inner work like you've had to?

As I mentioned in last week's post, my daughter Coco was born 6 weeks ago. While this isn't my first rodeo (I have a 4 year old son as well), any parent can attest to the fact that babies are unpredictable. Just because your first child loved the car seat and would only nap in the carrier, it doesn't mean that your other children will also love those things. Just because your first child has separation anxiety on the first day of school, it doesn't mean your second child will. Regardless of growing up in the same home with the same parents and seemingly identical circumstances, your children will be completely different from one another.

I already kinda knew this, but Human Design has affirmed it and even offers a detailed explanation of all our differences. Reading and analyzing my son's chart, comparing it to my own and to his dad's, has given me a deeper awareness and understanding of him that I might not have ever gained otherwise. I've been able to communicate with him (and my partner!) so much more effectively. I've been able to prevent so many arguments and meltdowns. Most importantly, I've been able to accept that he is his own person separate from me, my partner, and our conditioning. It's been incredibly healing.

So you'd better believe I ran my daughter's chart almost immediately after giving birth to her! She, like my son, is a Generator. But her chart is much more open than his, she has sacral authority, and she is a 4/6 profile (he's a 6/2). Here's what I can deduce just at first glance of her chart:

The first thing that strikes me when I look at her chart is how open it is. She has 5 out of 9 energy centers either undefined or completely open (no gate activations). This matters because it's through our open centers that we take in the most energy and conditioning from our environment. For example, my son and I both have defined emotional solar plexus centers. This means that when in our auras, Coco is absorbing and amplifying our emotions and doesn't necessarily understand or have the ability to process them like Matt and I do. I can tell you now that I already see this manifesting as unexplained fussiness/sleeplessness when she is in Matt's aura or when I'm feeling edgy. As she grows, I'll always be emphasizing and teaching her bodily awareness. I'll teach her how to distinguish her own stuff from everyone else's, as well as ways to protect her own energy to avoid getting overwhelmed. I'll also make sure I'm staying emotionally healthy (of course).

Next I notice that she has a defined heart/ego center. This means that everyone in my home has a defined heart, which is kinda crazy because only about 30% of the population has this! Basically this means there is a huge battle of wills going on in our house. Fun, right?! I'll prepare myself to teach both of my children how to decide which things to commit to, and how to channel their competitiveness in a healthy way.

I also take note of the fact that all of her arrows (variables) are pointing left and that both her head and ajna are open. This indicates that she will have a VERY active mind, the ability to see many different perspectives, as well as the ability to be very focused (if she can learn to work with the intense pressure to think and come up with answers). Teaching her mindfulness techniques will be key or she will be vulnerable to mental anxiety.

I could go on and on (and I do on the podcast!), but I'll just speak to one more thing - her 4/6 profile! Her relationships will have a lot of meaning in her life, and the groups/networks she's a part of will be mutually influential. This is very different from me and my profile, so it's important that I remember this and that I teach her how to connect with the correct people for her, and reassure her that she won't be everyone's cup of tea and that's ok! She isn't mean to influence strangers - she's here for her ride or dies. She might also have a tendency to perfectionism. Teaching her that mistakes can be productive and constantly reminding her to evaluate what she learns from them will help her to ease some of the negative self-talk when she inevitably screws up.

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